Win The Game


It’s almost Super Bowl Sunday here in the US. In just a few days the two teams who have played hard all season will play the last game of the season in hopes that they will win the super bowl and be the “champion.” They will have strategized, viewed footage of their best and worst work, and studied plays provided by their coaching staff. They will put in time and sweat equity doing whatever is necessary to get the ring and the glory. However, coaching, strategizing, and planning aside, all the players have one goal- win the game. No player will be expected to pass up an unexpected opportunity that is presented while they are on the field that can get them the win. Even if it’s not one of the pre discussed plays.

I want you to do the same. I want you to make sure you are preparing to do whatever it takes to win the game.  Whatever is necessary to achieve your goals.  More importantly however, as you play I want you to be ready, willing, and able to maximize the opportunity you are given, not the one you are hoping for according to the play book, to win the game.  I want you to plan, activate the plan, and be willing to alter the plan if it’s what it takes to secure the win.
  Don’t lose yards because it wasn’t 
what was discussed as probable 
in the locker room of your mind. 

Phind out Phriday: Unscripted- Erin Lee


It was my last night in San Francisco. We met on Powell Street, walked up the hill, turned left, walked up a block to Sutter Street, and went to the sushi place she loves. She had several recommendations but I settled for the California crab roll. First we caught up on each other’s lives. We talked about the usual- family, friends, travels, guys we were and weren’t seeing, not quite being 30, and film.  But we didn’t just talk about film. We talked about her and film. We transitioned from catching up to me phinding out.
Erin Lee is a 29 year old film maker from Miami, Florida and currently residing in San Francisco, California. She has participated in various film projects on both costs and is currently working on a documentary with the Public Broadcasting Service (PBS) in San Francisco. As you will read, Erin loves using film to tell a story, just as much as I enjoy interviews and phinding out people’s stories. Here’s what I phound out about Erin and her work with film-unscripted.

Phreedum: Who are you in 5 words?
EL: Walking around with theme music.
Phreedum: How did you get into film?
EL: In high school I was interested in photography and signed up for a photography class as an elective. I didn’t get into the class and instead was put into a cinematography class. I had a really great teacher and fell in love with film and the ability to tell people’s stories. So, for college I went to Vancouver Film School and have been doing film in some form ever since.
Phreedum: How long have you been doing film freelance?
EL: For about 9 years now. I started right when I finished college. It wasn’t by choice. It really was all that was available.
Phreedum: What is your favorite aspect of film making?
EL: Editing is my first love. I have done a lot of editing, particularly with documentaries which I really like. More specifically veritae which is filming unstaged objective day to day things. I use interviews to tie the veritae footage together to produce a cohesive documentary.  
Phreedum: So how long does the editing process take?
EL: You know that’s usually the hardest part to explain to people. The editing process takes a while. It can take an entire day to create one minute of finished footage. In fact, I usually bill clients based upon the length of the finished product as opposed to the length of time it takes me to edit the film. It’s more budget friendly for clients that way.
Phreedum: So your favorite part of film making is the part that takes the most time?
EL: Here’s the thing. It takes so much time because you can easily manipulate and lose a story with sound and juxtaposition. The editing is where you control the pace and sound design of the film to create emotion and tell the story, the story the people who hired you need you to tell.
Phreedum: What would you consider your greatest success so far?
EL: Having the confidence to ask for what I’m worth. This was an excruciating learning process for me. However, I think when you ask for more, people respect you more.
Phreedum: What has been the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far?
EL: Not to take every job offered out of desperation. At the end of the day when I did this, it drove me crazy. I was tired, overworked, and underpaid. My time is worth something so I don’t need to say yes to everything.
Phreedum: Who has had the most influence in encouraging you to phreely pursue your dream?
EL: Gwendolyn Wright, a small business consultant here in San Francisco.  When I first started filming for her business she would push me to do things that terrified me. She had a lot of faith in me and my abilities. She taught me a lot about self respect, especially being okay with saying no and not to be afraid of conflict. 
Phreedum: What’s so great about being an entrepreneur in San Francisco?
EL: It was a lot easier for me to get work as there is a small film community here. San Francisco is also not a 9-5 city. There is always something to do in some part of the city and that usually means there is always some type of film or artistic project to be a part of in some capacity depending upon what your interests and skills are.
Phreedum: What would you consider your greatest resource?
EL: The experience I’ve had with larger corporate jobs has helped me learn so many various aspects of film that I can now do so many smaller projects completely on my own.
Phreedum: What do you think people underestimate about freelance work?
EL: I think people underestimate the idea that freelancing full time can be a reliable source of income. It really can bring in fulltime fulfillment financially and otherwise. I have lived in San Francisco for four years and it took three years for me to go to freelance full time. I worked as a cocktail waitress, bar tender, swim instructor, but I am happiest doing film and doing it full time.
Phreedum: Best piece of advice you’ve received?
EL: “Don’t bother doing anything unless your heart is completely in it otherwise you’re just going to drive yourself nuts.”
Phreedum: How does your freelance film work change the lives of others?
EL: Well I think for the person who hires me to do the work I am helping them fulfill a goal and tell a story. I think for the people viewing the work, especially the documentaries, I get to change their lives by educating them. Right now I am working with PBS regarding a documentary about indigenous communities and sacred sites all over the world. A lot of the communities are working hard to preserve these sites and my work with the documentary is educating people and helping to preserve the sites.


That's..... Unnecessary



We were having a girls night at one of my best friend’s homes. I and another friend were a little early and were helping to finish putting the food and drinks out. My best friend mentioned she selected certain wine for wine lovers like myself and I shared “I won’t be drinking anything.”  I quickly followed that up with “I’m not pregnant.”
“Ahyana you don’t drink that much anyway, “ my best friend said.
“I know, so why drink at all. It doesn’t do anything for me. It’s just unnecessary.”
The next day amidst running errands I overheard two young women talking, one sharing how she decided to stop using profanity. Her friend mentioned she had noticed to which the young woman responded “Thank you” and that she has realized that it was “unnecessary.”
I’m going to keep this post pretty brief, mostly because too many words would be, “unnecessary.” And if you have concluded that is what this post is about, you have done rather well.
Here’s what I encourage you to ponder this week- to go, do, and be more ,what is unnecessary as you pursue the necessary?  What are the things that don’t  get to be labeled good or bad right or wrong but simply necessary or unnecessary?
I’m not going to give you a list of things that could or should be pondered as either. I’m just going to encourage you to do as I always encourage you to do, think about it then be about it.  I take that back, I will give you a directive:

Stop letting the unnecessary 
prevent you from the necessary.


Phind out Phriday: Picture Perfection, Joy Pinkney-Davis of Just Joy Photography



“If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re a professional, you don’t have time to just sit and do nothing. You should be out doing things for your business.”- Joy Pinkney Davis
Truer words could not have been spoken by this week’s Phind out Phriday entrepreneur, Joy Pinkney-Davis of Just Joy Photography. I don’t think I have interviewed an entrepreneur that I didn’t think was on their grind, but Joy gives new meaning to grinding. If she is not in the studio she works at part time, she is at some one’s home, place of business, or an outdoor location with her camera and photography equipment in tow. When I say her interview has been three months in the making, it has. And that’s because, she has been out “doing things” for her business- Just Joy Photography.  
Phreedum: Tell me about how you took your passion for photography and turned it into Just Joy Photography?
JPD: It started when I was a sophomore in college. I started a part time job at a photography studio nearby. I just needed something to help pay the rent. It wasn’t really an interest of mine initially although I love art, especially painting and writing. In fact I was enrolled in school as an English major with a poetry concentration. Working at the studio exposed me to a new form of art that I really enjoyed and wanted to learn more about. Eventually I saved money enough money, bought a decent camera, and started practicing my skills on friends. In February 2011 I officially opened Just Joy Photography and turned the passion and practice into a profession.
Phreedum: You mentioned you love art, especially painting and writing, so why photography?
JPD: To be honest, I really enjoy capturing happiness. I get to catch something that happened in a second and translate it into a form of art that maintains that momentary feeling forever. I also get to work with children a lot which I love. I don’t just take pictures of children but they are my absolute favorite.
Phreedum: Who are you in 5 words?
JPD: Creative, daring, eccentric (I like a lot of different things and I love color), patient, weird.
Phreedum: What has been a highlight for you with Just Joy Photography? 
JPD: I would have to say it was when I did my first wedding this past June. Weddings are really different compared to in studio photography where you can control a lot of elements like lighting for example. It was also my first wedding so I was really anxious about doing a good job and capturing the couple’s big day. Looking back I think it was a great challenge and they were really pleased with my work.
Phreedum: What would you consider one of the biggest lessons you’ve learned so far?
JPD: Everything.  Wait, can I say that?
We laugh.
Phreedum: Sure. Why not?
JPD: Okay. So yeah, everything. Photography wasn’t something I always did or wanted to do. My initial exposure was a part time job in a photo studio where everything was new and everything was automatic. I bought my first camera, took it home, and it was like “Okay how do I work this?” Each day I would get on Youtube and look for videos that talked about things like lighting, focus, exposure, etc.  This whole process has been one big ol’ lesson that if I am really honest is still being taught. I am still learning things.
Phreedum: You were recently married. How was it for you to have to trust someone else to photograph your special moment when you're usually the one doing that for people?
She laughs.
JPD: To be honest, the photography was the only thing that brought out the Bridezilla in me. I gave a lot of “guidance” to the photographer. Granted, the photographer was a fellow coworker from the photography studio and a friend. It was hard to trust her but she really did a great job and my husband and I have great pictures of our wedding.
Phreedum: For some entrepreneurs maintaining a business and a romantic relationship is hard, so much so, they forgo the relationship. How have you been able to grow your business and relationship?
JPD: I still work at the photography studio part time and then I do my own shoots. When I do my own shoots I will often bring my husband along with me as much as possible. I think it’s helped him really understand my work and respect it even more. Plus, we still get time in together. Now, that’s not to say that he and I don’t spend time together when I’m not doing shoots, we do. I think in terms of being creative with our time especially when I have a hectic week, having him be a part of the shoots has been really great for both of us.
Phreedum: Who or what motivates and inspires you?
JPD: My husband. When I am nervous about a shoot, which is every shoot because it’s a new client with new expectations, he really calms me and reminds me of how good I am. In addition to my husband, Facebook photographers motivate me.
Phreedum: What do you mean by "Facebook" photographers?
JPD: A lot of times people will get professional pictures taken and post them on Facebook. What they usually end up posting are super cheesy over edited pictures. The pictures use too much soft lighting or every picture has that circle around the image. It’s just too much and doesn’t look natural. So, it just motivates me to not produce those types of pictures for my clients.  
Phreedum: How does Just Joy Photography change the lives of others?
JPD: I think the biggest way Just Joy Photography changes the lives of others is that I capture people’s special moments. I take a moment in time and capture it for a lifetime. I also like to think that I do this at a monetarily feasible rate. I work within the monetary means of my clients and provide quality work.
Phreedum: What do you think people under estimate about being an entrepreneur?
JPD: Time. People think if you have your own business you can create your own hours and work whenever you feel like it. In reality you work even when you don’t feel like it. When I am not at a shoot, I am editing pictures and making sure my clients get perfection.
Phreedum: What has been the best advice you have received as an entrepreneur?
JPD: My cousin told me to just be honest with my clients. I think I have held on to that and try really hard to do that with my clients. I don’t cut corners in terms of the products I use to take the pictures and produce them. I also don’t charge clients for the sake of charging them. I try to be honest and fair as an entrepreneur.
Phreedum: What is one piece of advice you would give the Joy of 10 years ago?
JPD: Go for what will make you happy not the money. Growing up I was all about being a doctor, helping people, and making money. Then there was a point where as I thought about it more I didn’t really want to do it. I went with what made me happy which initially was writing. Later, what made me even happier was photography. I think it just took me a while to let go of the whole being a doctor and feeling comfortable with doing something that I liked even if it wasn’t a profession which guaranteed decent money.
Phreedum: What advice would you give to other budding photographers?
JPD: Get off auto. Go to manual. Be in control. It’s easy to let the camera be on auto and have it do the work, but you’re not really learning and you’re not really in control. Also, please buy quality glass. By glass I mean lenses. My camera cost almost $3,000.00 and I have lenses that costs anywhere from $300.oo to $800.00. It makes a huge difference. You have to invest in you craft.
Phreedum: Last question. If Just Joy Photography was a reality TV show, which reality TV show would it be and why?
JPD: I think it would be similar to "The Real World." There would be me, other photographers, and we would just do a variety of different shoots, with different people, for different causes (ad campaigns, fundraising campaigns, weddings, model shoots, etc.), and in different locations.


For more information about Just Joy Photography visit www.justjoyphotography.weebly.com  or email justjoyphotography@yahoo.com or follow Joy on Twitter @Justjoyphilly

GO

Wherever you are going this year make sure you have a few “go to’s “to get there. Make sure that there are a few things, regardless of how crazy or hectic things are, that you can do to maintain your sanity and your creativity. If you lose it then we lose it. We lose all the amazing things you have to offer. So here are a few of my "go to’s." Feel phree to use some, feel even phreer to take a moment and make sure you have your own.

Go to web reads (Read it on the way to work, on the way home from work, in bed Saturday morning with chocolate chip pancakes because I start housework, etc.)

1. Liberette Magazine http://www.liberettemag.com/

2. Concrete Cakes http://www.concretecakes.com/

3. My Damn Blog http://mydamnblog.com/

4. BBC News http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/

5. Real Simple Magazine http://www.realsimple.com/

6. Life +Times http://lifeandtimes.com/

Go to ipod playlist (Right now, in love with and will sing to it and might get caught when the elevator doors open.)

1. Amel Lareouix’s For Real

2. Beyonce’s Crazy in Love

3. Solange Knowles’ T.O.N.Y.

4. Parliament’s Flashlight

5. Rob Base’s It Takes Two

Go to books for inspiration (Sometimes I’m at a loss for my own words, so I need the words of others.)

1. Bible

2. Beautylicous

3. The One Life Solution

4. What’s So Amazing About Grace (the visual edition)

5. The Lover’s Dictionary

Go to wardrobe pieces (As much as I look to look like I always have it together, I have my days, and these pieces help A LOT.)

1. High waisted black pencil skirt

2. V neck multi colored dress

3. Black tuxedo blazer

4. Heels (definitely a new development)

5. Classic cut red trench coat

Go to accessories (Because even the LBD for that networking event I forgot and am running way late for sometimes needs a little something. )

1. Pearl earrings

2. A big chunky obnoxious ring (the bigger the better)

3. My non prescription big and thick plastic black framed glasses

4. My leopard print bag

Go to motivating movies/tv shows (Sometimes seeing helps believing.)

1. The Women

2. Sex and the City

3. The Potter’s Touch

4. How to make it in America

5. Documentaries (on anything except medical ones or animals)

Go to ways to manage stress (Because there is no S on my chest, when it’s all said in done to maintain my sanity and relationships I take a break and some are longer than others.)

1. Bubble baths

2. Prayer

3. Exercise

4. Drink tea

5. Travel (LOVE San Francisco and the National Gallery of Art in DC)

6. Cook

7. Laugh

Now that you’ve read my go to’s  I think it's time that you get going!

Phind out Phriday: He Speaks, We Listen- Luis Marrero of Voices In Power


I first heard of Luis Marrero creator of Voices In Power (VIP) the way I hear about a lot of folks…through twitter.  Someone retweeted a request for poems for the Voices In Power website. I went to his site.  I first heard Mr. Marrero at an event titled Word of Mouth last October. He was the MC for the event and graciously wrapped up the event with an original piece of his own. I sent an email.  I first met Luis on an unusually quiet Saturday morning in a coffee shop in center city Philadelphia. He declined my offer for a beverage, took a seat, and admitted his nerves were trying to get the best of him. I assured him there was no need to be nervous. It’s just an interview. Just a compilation of words. And we both knew that he knows words.
An hour later, nerves clearly calmed, he was extending thanks for my interest in his work and I was extending thanks for his time and sharing his journey with me and allowing me to phind out about Luis Marrero of Voices In Power.

Phreedum: How did VIP get started?
LM: I started Voices In Power when I moved back east from Vegas.  I was doing a poetry slam out there. I didn’t have a job when I came back, so I figured I would try the poetry  here. My first show was at  Barnes and Noble in Deptford, New Jersey in April of 2011 and it just kept growing.
Phreedum: I’ve noticed that you do regular events with a team of people, tell me about that.
LM: Since April I’ve been fortunate to build an amazing team of artists. There are 10 artists who are a part of Voices In Power and their talents vary. The team has a comedian, photographer, drummer, and 7 poets.  We have been able to host about two events a month since April, including our own monthly event the third Sunday of the month at the Head House, other events for nonprofit organizations, and a college tour.
Phreedum: You and the team have done a lot in only a few months. That’s pretty cool. So beyond clearly being creative and passionate about your craft, who is Luis Marrero in 5 words?
LM: Poet, business, family-oriented, ambitious, and hungry.
Phreedum: Why spoken word?
LM: I’ve been writing since 6th grade. I started out with aspirations to be a rapper. In 8th grade I shifted to poetry. A teacher submitted a poem I wrote for a competition and I won. The piece was called "Colors of Life" and was my first published work. After high school I became more public with my poetry.
Phreedum: What has been a highlight for you since starting VIP?
LM: One of the events we got to be a part of was a fundraising event for The Children’s Heritage Foundation. It was a really great event, but I think what made it such a highlight was receiving the invitation for us to be a part of the event. VIP didn’t have to ask to be a part. One of the founders heard about us, followed us, saw our growth, and invited us to be a part of their event.
Phreedum: What do you consider to be your greatest resource?
LM: Myself. I try to attend a lot of events with like minded people to learn and network. I do all that I can do to build VIP. To be honest I never saw myself doing this because I am naturally a shy person. However, since VIP has grown and I want it to keep growing I push myself to open up, approach people, and  learn all that I can.
Phreedum: You mentioned earlier that you are a part of a team. Talk to me about what you think is important to being a part of an effective team?
LM: Number one would be communication. You have to have good communication when you are a part of a team. We work really hard at this. I’d also say trust and loyalty.  I think it’s important that you can trust the team is loyal to whatever  the goal is. We trust that everyone who is a part of the team is committed to what is best for VIP.  Lastly, I would say hunger. Whatever the goal is, everyone has to want it just as bad as the next. Hunger builds strength because people will do whatever it takes, and a team is only as strong as its weakest person.
Phreedum: Who would you say is your greatest source of support?
LM: DiAndre Brown. I’ve known him for about 7 or 8 years now and I say he’s my brother. He’s always had my back and when I started VIP he was the first person to join the team.
Phreedum: I like to think that for as original as entrepreneurs are, they are often inspired by a fellow creative type.  Who inspires you?
LM: Common Ground Management. They are three young Black men who are very intelligent ambitious, and genuine. They hit me up on twitter to host their Word of Mouth Event that was held in October. I really appreciated being asked to host, that they trusted me to carry their event. The event was great and I just have a lot of respect for them. I definitely look up to them.
Phreedum: What’s the best advice you have received while building VIP?
LM: Remain humble. Before VIP I was a bit arrogant. I think with whatever your passion is, as you pursue it you have to believe you are the best. That kind of confidence helps you keep self doubt at a minimum and to keep pursuing your passion. But, I used to claim I was the best, and I’m not. Success can really blow up your head. It’s cool to perfect your craft, to do well, and have successful moments, but you can’t be prideful. You have to stay humble.
Phreedum: So the old Luis was a little arrogant. Interesting. What would you tell the old Luis Marrero of 10 years ago?
LM: Pay attention in school. I used to stay in trouble in school. That’s part of why my mom moved out of Philly to Jersey. I would write inside, but outside the house most of the time I was reckless and getting into some kind of trouble. I would tell myself to stay focused and stay out of the streets.
Phreedum: How does VIP change the lives of others?
LM: I have had people tell me that attending a VIP event has changed the way they have thought about things or just encouraged them to get back to writing. One of the VIP team member’s fiancĂ©’s shared her daughter attended an event and asked her how she could be a part of it. I think the words and the work of VIP artists inspires and challenges people in a variety of ways on a variety of levels. I also think our monthly events give people something to look forward to other than the club/party scene.
Phreedum: You host your monthly events here in Philly and I’ve seen you at events here in Philly. Why so much love from VIP for Philadelphia?
LM: I tried to start in Jersey with the goal of bringing some of the Philly culture to Jersey. After the first two shows in Jersey, the events were harder to draw a crowd. I think that was because the venue I was at had all kinds of restrictions.  When in Philly, there is a lot more freedom. Not to mention Philadelphia has a rich history of artistic talent and culture.  However, I do think Philly has been getting a bad rap and I want VIP to be a part of bringing back the beauty and enhancing the artistic community here.
Phreedum: Last question, if VIP were to be compared to a Harlem Renaissance Poet, who would it be and why?
LM: If VIP was to be compared to a Harlem Renaissance poet, hands down it would be May Miller. In addition to being a talented poet, she was an educator and a play write. Like VIP, we are beyond words. I believe our words on paper manifest into teachings for our listeners and visual plays in the minds of the audience.


For more information about Luis Marrerro and Voices In Power visit www.voicesinpower.com or follow Luis on Twitter @ImSuperDope_

Phree to Be the Original, the Authentic, the Real, the First

“The other day I heard someone compare me to Nas, saying I was the next Nas. And that’s cool, but I just want to be the 1st Chill Moody. “ – Chill Moody

I went to a hip hop and art show the other night and no Chill Moody was not in the building unfortunately. However as I listened to the different artists perform my bias toward artists who clearly weren’t trying to be “the next” but were content with being “the first” was apparent. These artists were the ones I made a note to follow up with for an interview for the blog. These were the ones who I heard through the beat, saw past the sea of fitted cap head nods, and reminded me of the conversation I had with Chill Moody where he shared he just wants to be the first him.

If you think about it, especially with the holiday season not too far behind us, many of us have an affinity for the original, the authentic, the real. We want real gold. We want real leather. We want organic food. Heck we want organic cotton made clothes. We can appreciate the chemically engineered but we do have a soft spot for the genuine thing. So if we can desire the real when it comes to material goods, why should you or I settle for anything less when it comes to who we are and aspire to be?

We shouldn’t.

My hope for you readers is that as you look at all you aspire to be and do in the future that you aspire to be the first you. My hope is that as you look at your calendars, to do list, vision boards, and whatever else you have or use when it comes to identifying and pursuing goals and self improvement is that it all climaxes at you being you.

Now, if you are reading this and you don’t know who you are, you may want to make that your number one goal. Scratch that- make knowing who you are the number one goal. Make knowing the core components of you, your core beliefs, values, and characteristics a priority. If you don’t know who you are how are you going to know where you are going? If you don’t know who you are you may spend what will be wasted time being who others perceive you to be and pursuing other people’s goals and dreams for you. If you don’t know who you are, how will anyone else know who you are?

Those are some good questions I just asked you right? So you might have one for me. Like, “how do I figure out who I am?”

That question is almost as good as mine are. And I’m glad you asked it. So here is my “I just want you to be phree to be the best you” response

1. Set aside some time to really think about your past experiences. Think about the ones you really enjoyed and what made them so enjoyable. Even if it was the people with whom you shared the experience with, it may highlight that you are definitely a people person through and through.

2. Set aside time to think about your future and where you want to see yourself in the next three months, the end of the year, the next couple of years, and when you retire. Think about everything. And by everything, I mean everything. Getting or quitting a job, Applying to or withdrawing from school. Taking voice or dance lessons. Moving out or moving in. Getting married or having children (or more children or adopting.) Going from an online establishment to a brick and mortar establishment. Traveling to Africa or Europe. Let yourself dream and then see what those dreams have in common. You might see that you are a bit of a nomad and like flexibility. You might find you love family but are not sure how you feel about creating one. You may find that while education is important to you, you don’t want any more degrees or certifications.

3. Set aside time to think about how you spend your time. Are you constantly at the gym? Maybe that’s because health is important to you. Are you constantly cooking because people are always “stopping by”? Maybe that’s because you are compassionate and you like to host. Or maybe it’s because you love to cook and love the creativity that cooking invites. Are you a TV watcher? That’s fine, but what are you watching? I have come to realize I LOVE documentaries. And I will watch them on almost anything. Politics, historical events, people, international affairs, etc. I love to learn and documentaries help me with that. I am a nerd, and not on the low. As always, look for the patterns, the things you spend most of your time doing. Oh, and make sure you spend your time doing it because you want to.

4. Write. Write a list of what you do well and what you are constantly working on. Everything from making amazing spaghetti-o’s to having amazing style, from consistently being late to avoiding confrontation.

5. Listen. Listen to what people say about you. Do your best to listen objectively. What are people saying? Are you constantly being told how creative you are? Articulate? Smart? Passionate? Are you being teased for always traveling somewhere? Are you constantly being asked to edit a paper or lead a team? Does your supervisor talk to you about appreciating your feedback but encouraging you to use more tact when you share? My former executive director called me a go getter and told me the agency “needs people like me- people with initiative.” I use that to get out of ruts and keep moving forward. It may be corny but those words are written in my journal and the page dog eared. She saw an aspect of myself that I am committed to utilizing and further developing.

6. Ask. Ask people what your strengths are and challenges are. Again, just be open to what they say. Listen to their response objectively. Ask for examples. Look for the commonalties in the responses you gather from different folk.

As you work your way through these steps my hope is that you really will begin to see a pattern of characteristics, interests and behaviors that are unique to and inherently you. Just remember these steps are not a sure fire way to you pin pointing all of who you are. They are only meant to help you get started with identifying and reveling in some of the core parts of who you are. They are only meant to help you highlight the parts of you that won’t change regardless of if you grow your hair out or cut it, keep it natural or wear someone else’s like it’s natural, wear Jordans or classic Adidas shell tops, tie or tee. They are only meant to help you be the original, authentic, real, first you.